This week, I celebrated 10 years of marriage. It’s been great, although I truly believe that I have had things much easier.
For many years now I have gone to my ‘hobby’ for 8 hours a day, a hobby that pays me every other Friday. Meanwhile, I get to talk to people about current events, surf the web and enjoy a hot meal.
During those times, my wife is busy with food preparation, picky eaters and cleanup, and that is just the first few hours. After strapping my two-year-old in the car seat, handing her a snack and some form of entertainment, my wife hits the road to pick up my 5-year-old from school. I’ll never understand it, but sometimes my wife dares to take them to a grocery store before going home to laundry, more food preparation and picky eaters. She also fixes hair, and hair is never going to be my thing.
The point here is to say that we should take time to thank our wives for the work they do, work we sometimes do not even see as work. She may not have a paying job outside the home, but it is still work. ‘Work’ is defined in various ways, including the “activity in which one exerts strength or faculties to do or perform something.” That sounds like feeding, bathing and doing laundry to me.
Regardless, any task that requires “sustained physical or mental effort to overcome obstacles and achieve an objective or result” meets the definition of work.
I suppose someone reading this may say, ‘Well, what about me? I do a lot of things that I don’t get ‘thanks’ for, and it’s been that way for a long time.’ I know how you feel. I have been there at times, albeit selfishly. Think about it. Are we doing things for her or for us to receive something in return? Thank your wife today for the things she does inside and outside of the home. You can cook a meal or take her and the family out to eat if you prefer to err on the side of culinary caution. You could even run errands for her on your next day off work.
Do something but do it for her, not you.