Scripture has a lot to say about marriage. One of the verses we strive to live up to at One Million Dads is Ephesians 5:25. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it,” the verse says. While that means being there for her in all kinds of situations, we can also love our wives by giving her some space. Actually, husbands should encourage wives to have a night out with other wives. This is especially the case for husbands of stay at home mothers.
I don’t know your situation, but I am the only one earning an income outside the home. Notice that I did not say I am the only one working. On a daily basis, I get to have an intelligent conversation with adults between sunrise and sundown. I also have time to enjoy the food I eat, and I listen to music I want to hear versus tunes that will keep the kids quiet. I might add that our televisions at work do not feature the faces of animated princesses, pirates and or talking animals.
If I had to guess, I’d say most of my wife’s day is composed of everything from ‘Mom!’ to ‘I’m hungry’ and ‘pee pee, pee pee.’ Thankfully, my youngest is starting to handle that last one on her own, but that’s why I say my wife works. Because a wife or being a mom is hard work, and moms need a night out to talk about things they’re interested in.
It is for these reasons that I welcome the Moms’ Night Out that my wife participates in every few weeks. Sure, it sometimes pops up after a long day at work. It may even be that it becomes my responsibility to give the kids a bath or do their hair. But if it means she gets a break, I’m happy. Why? Jesus tells me to be a servant. My wife serves me. Jesus loved the church and gave Himself for it. My wife loves me and I would give myself for her. Jesus gave Himself for us.
One bit of advice. If your wife participates in some sort of night out but appears to have second thoughts about going one week, under no circumstances should you say, “Didn’t you just go to one of those things?” Even if it sounded much better in your head, that’s not how she will hear it. It’s also not how she needs to hear it. She needs to hear, “That sounds like fun, you should go.” Before she knows it, she’ll be right back on the job. And those pirates or princesses are not going anywhere. Aargh.