Recently, One Million Dads posted a graphic that said the following: Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice.
I agree with this statement. There’s only one problem. I do not have a son. I have daughters. While I can still set examples for them, be it through Bible reading, prayer and family time, I can set an example for them on how men should treat women. In doing so, I can teach them what to look for in a man.
Here are but a few things that come to mind:
• A man treats a woman with respect
• A man apologizes when he has done wrong
• A man does not hurt or harm a woman intentionally
• A man opens doors for women and pitches in when she needs help
• A man does not see attractive women and lust after them (Matthew 5:27-28 )
• A married man loves his wife like Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it (Ephesians 5:25)
To put it another way, a man should practice chivalry, which is an honorable and polite way of behaving especially toward women. Amazingly, some women have come to view this as wrong or sexist. “How dare he open a door for me?” they might ask. “Don’t call me ma’am,” others might say. I can somewhat understand this one, as some people and or regions of the country see this as sort of aging a woman or something. However, I’m southern by the grace of God, and ma’am is a way to politely speak to a woman who you do not know.
If and when my girls see me exhibiting these manners, they see how a man should treat women. When they get older, they might expect men to behave the same way. That may be setting the bar high, but it’s better than getting hammered, beating my wife, yelling at her and running around town with other females. Now, I would never do that to my wife, but if I did, it could make my girls think this is how all men are and they should expect the same when they get older.
Men, go home. Love your wife. Set an example.